The Complexities of Women-Chapter 2

I was at a cookout this weekend with some friends.  There were mostly couples there, but there were a few people in attendance that came alone.. and during the course of conversation we all began to discuss relationships…as often happens when there are men, women….and ALCOHOL!!!

So, as we continued to discuss what men want and what women want….one woman stood up and declared..”Well, I’m done with dating the old fashioned way, now I’m joining a dating website called Sugar Daddy for Me!!”  We all hollered laughing at her, but ya’ll…she was dead serious!!  She even pulled up the website and showed all of us that she had already begun her search!!  Now, I have my own opinion about this subject, but let me just pose a question to you all….

Dating for profit.   Is it just a new form of “selling yourself”, or is it actually different?  You see, a woman can draw a distinction between “selling yourself” and “using what you got, to get what you want”.  I can hear the guys saying…, “now that’s some bullsh__t!!!!”   Come on, I heard ya’!!  But I’m telling you, a lot of women don’t see it as the same thing.  This lady said she had some student loans she needed paying off, and some jewelry she wanted but couldn’t afford, so why not date someong who could take care of that?  (I’m still laughing thinking about the whole conversation!!).   I think it’s quite interesting that women are now considering forgoing the slow and steady route to building a relationship….and deciding instead to shoot for the stars….literally!!  A lot of women are saying that if she hasn’t found a good man by now, that they are going to just find a “sugar daddy” or a “baller” and just come up!!

Now, I’m not saying that every woman out there who is not attached is thinking like this…but I can tell you that a lot of women out there have had this thought cross their minds at some point.  Most don’t act on it, but it seems that there is a growing number of well educated, “got it going on” women out there who are making some very different dating decisions these days.   They may think that if they’ve reached a certain age and still haven’t found “the one”  that they have to learn to play a different game of sorts in order to gain some ground.   Ether way, it can still be a slippery slope to tread on, so call it what you want.  Dating for profit or the old fashioned route.  I don’t know about you guys, but I still believe that if you take the slow and steady route, and use the good sense that God gave you….that one for you will come along. And who knows, that one may be the “sugar daddy” you were looking for all along! 

Take care my sisters, and just remember:  It’s all a game….just make sure you know all the rules before you play. 



The Complexities of Women-Chapter One

I was thinking today at how different men and women really are.  Not just the obvious differences, but there are many layers to our REAL differences.  Here is one example:

When a man doesn’t like someone, or considers a person as an enemy….that’s it!  There are no pleasant conversations and there are certainly no lunch dates or hang out sessions.  Basically, a man will not waste time with a person who he doesn’t like.  But now…women…ok, it’s kind of complicated, but of course…I’m here to “Break it Down” for you….:)

As a woman, I can tell you that for as long as I can remember, I’ve had “friends” that were just a hot mess of bitchiness!!!  I mean, the kind of ladies (and I use that term loosely) that would attempt to steal/seduce your boyfriend…just to prove to you that he was “no good for you”, or tell people all of your private business and then get back with you to tell you that people are “talking about you like a dog!”  I know..scandalous!!  But here is the funny part…..Women will actually still consider them “friends”.  Yes, you read that right….FRIENDS!!!  Now, don’t get me wrong, we DO actually know the difference between friends and enemies.  But women have evolved to the point of creating a new category of people….and we call them “Fre-nemies”…(both friend and enemy).  This is really not a new thing….but it came up again recently when I noticed that it’s being displayed so often now.  In TV shows, movies and of course in real life.

I don’t know if it’s some type of psychosis that we have or what (LOL!!!).  I’d just like to think that we are “highly evolved beings” that can extract the good and fun things out of a person and not totally discard them because of their obvious flaws.  (That sounded so intelligent, didn’t it?).  Whatever the reason, I know that there are women out there right now having to acknowledge that at least of few of their friends are actually “Fre-nemies” and that in spite of knowing right from wrong and the difference between good people and bad people that we still let these women stay in our circle.  I guess the old adage is true….”keep your friends close, but….keep your FRE-NEMIES closer!!!”